by Gloria Dulan-Wilson
I’m starting off this Monday with health, happiness and blessings on my mind, and came across this piece from the Health and Hospitals Corporation (HHC) of NYC. And it struck me as an appropriate way to begin the day.
As many of you know, my Mom, Ruby Love Dulan, passed on April 14 at the age of 91. She was a beautiful, spirited woman to the end.
What you may not know is that she battled diabetes and kidney problems for the last third of her life – and when I say battled, I mean BATTLED! The onset of diabetes occurred subsequent to the passing of my father – they had been married for 47 years, and had been an active, happy couple. I think a form of melancholia set in, and Mom just didn’t get up, get out, and do like she used to. The upshot of that, a year or so later, according to her physician, was the diagnoses of diabetes.
Now I’m not saying that melancholia is the cause of diabetes. What I am saying is that, plus debilitating inertia, and of course snacking on all that wonderful food my Mom used to prepare for Dad and the rest of the family, combined to produce this horrific disease.
The first thing I did when I learned of the diagnoses, was do my usual research into which herbs, vitamins and protocols she needed to take to help her defeat this. However, the combination of the kidney problem was something we were not prepared for. My brother, Syl, who remained home in Oklahoma City, and became her primary caregiver.
However, this is where the story changes drastically. Instead of a person who was confined to the house, or who continued to deteriorate, my Mom Ruby Love, met the challenge head on. She began to learn everything she needed to know about diabetes, diet, sugar levels – whether or not it was insulin dependent, etc. She literally rolled her sleeves up and decided, at the age of 67, that she wasn’t going out like that. She wasn’t losing any limbs, or sight, or other functions. My mom had always been a fighter and a winner. She changed her diet, her routine, her attitude.
And though she had some setbacks, she made it to age 91! – with my brother’s help, great doctors, a lot of prayers on the part of my sister Brenda and myself. She was up, walking, talking, meditating, feeding the birds, traveling (she drove until she was 85!!)
There was an episode when the doctors treating her for diabetes, and the doctors treating for the kidney failure gave her conflicting medications, which caused her to swell up, and freaked my brother out, because he thought Mom was going to die. I called the hospital from NYC, spoke with the doctors, and threatened to sue them if they didn’t get their acts together and work in synch with each other. The problem never happened again. (Sometimes you have to put your foot down too, you know.)
I’m saying this to say, if a little bitty 5’3″ African American/Cherokee woman in Oklahoma City can survive diabetes, there are a whole lot of savvy Black sisters and brothers in NYC who can do the same!
We celebrated my Mom Ruby Love’s 90th birthday on February 22, 2013 in Oklahoma City, OK. With all the family around her, she blew out those candles. When she passed on April 14, it was because she decided that it was time to go and be with my Dad. They are happy together again as our Ancestor/Angels.
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Now that you know, what will you do about it?
Frazier gettin Smoked by the late Randy Smith of the Buffalo Braves (photo- NY Times)- cs
I’m sharing Walt “Clyde” Frazier’s HHC Wellness article in case you’ve not seen it, and urging you to get your health back on track. Stop accepting diabetes as a “Black people’s disease.” Don’t claim what you don’t want to have happen in reality. Claim health, healing, happiness!! Like the brother said, “I believe in winning;” and that’s a good place to start. If you want something, first get it in your mind. Have a “winning” mindset, and you can defeat diabetes, and any other challenges you face.
Stay Blessed &
bullet Columnist Gloria Dulan-Wilson Is a veteran New York City Journalist. Her experiences, perspective & sense of history are an invaluable combination. “check out my blog:” www.gloria-dulan-wilson.blogspot.com